Phony and Fake Friends - Blog post 2

Pho-ny: Fake:

Not Genuine; Fraudulent. Not Genuine; Counterfeit.

A.K.A. BOGUS, FAKE, FALSE, FRAUD. A.K.A. imitation, forgery, copy

If any of these words sound familiar to you it's because you've had (past tense) or HAVE (present) A fake or phony friend. These are the worst people you could let in your circle, tell your business to, or even associate as your "friend." The absolute worst thing that you can do is TRUST THEM! They are snakes, and out to get you, try to take everything from you. It's okay at first because you think they are your friend and that they wouldn't betray you. But, as soon, and I mean AS SOON as you peep some suspicious actions, words, attitudes and that negative energy in the air this is what I want you to do. First things first, INVESTIGATE! your friendship.

Are there only bad times with a sprinkle of good times?, Are they always asking gossiping and talking about this person and that person?, Do they do things that your normally don't do but they to get you to do it because it's fun? A real friend will never put you in a fucked up situation on purpose, or let you go through anything alone. A real friend will always be an listening ear to you and will support you, they stick around in the hard times AND the good times! they actually care about you and your well being and your success. A fake friend will use you for what you've got, and try to elevate, only talk to you when they need something from you or want you to always do something for them. Like for example, they invite you to a party and then they get you hella drunk and they get too drunk themselves, not even caring about how you are going to drive them and yourself home, being that you drove to the party. You don't need that energy in your life, that's the kind of energy that will get you in trouble very fast because they don't care about you, they only care about themselves and making sure that they are good and got what they wanted.

I think there are three types of phony/fake friends. The first kind are the type to smile in your face and act like your friend, just for the benefits. This the type that you know something is a little off but you can't put your finger on them, you usually find them doing some dirty shit, that you had no idea they were even capable of doing. The second type are the kind that openly shade you by saying rude or hateful comments to you here and there and think they're being a 'real friend' by being 'honest' but they're really haters hating on you,but you think nothing of it cuz that's your "friend" and y'all been friends since however long. This the type that make you feel bad about yourself. The third one is the type that you just met through someone else who you just met and they try to wiggle into your life getting closer and closer to you. In reality they are just trying to embarrass you and paint the picture as if your the bad person when really it's them. This the type you have to publicly call them out on their bullshit and when you do they are appalled that you figured them out that fast and pretend as if they wouldn't ever do anything bad to you. These phony people are the real undercover feds.

The Second thing I want you to do is figure out what type of fake or phony friend that you have and then switch up the game on them, distance yourself from them as much as you possibly can. So for example if y'all get coffee every morning at 9 am, either go earlier than 9 am or go to a completely different place to get coffee, hell, you could even go so far to make the dag on coffee in the house before you leave. Or, if y'all sit next to each other, move your seat, sit on the opposite side of the room. If y'all ride together leave them, ride with someone else or find another way. The objective here is to distance yourself from them. Honestly, if you not for the B.S. then cut them off with no reasoning or explaining to them, just block them, delete them whatever you gotta do. when they approach you on why you cut them off, you can tell them how they were being fake, and wasn't being a true friend towards me, and you were negativity in my life. You could also not tell them anything and just say because you wanted too because you have the right too.

Bottom line, You deserve true friends, whom actually want to be your friends, are actually there for you and support you. You don't deserve nothing less and don't take it if it's anything less than that. Let them know you ain't taking that B.S. Don't let them take over your life and separate you from your true friends and family. Oh and one final piece of advice, If your TRUE friends come to you telling you about your OTHER FAKE friends, you need to listen to them, that should be a wake up sign right there, no they ain't trippin or lying or jealous, they tryna help you and save you from whatever future mess they gone have you in. So listen to them!

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