The Naked Truth

The real truth about Aries and Leos in a relationship, family members not righting their wrongs, staying consistent and transitioning into your career as a young adult.

I know I'm not the only one who loves Aries! I have a lot of Aries in my family, have been friends with some as well as been in a relationship with one and I love their energy. They are so loyal when in a relationship and they just want their loyalty matched! They also want your time and attention, if they catch you acting funny they address it immediately because they don't take any bullshit. And they're honest too! when in an argument they speak straight facts and a lot of people can't handle that, for some its a turn off because it's so raw. But, don't anger an Aries because they are literal fire when they get upset and they stay mad for days on end before they calm down about whatever made them mad. Alternatively, they are smart as hell and fine as hell, they're born leaders and have a great sense of style and fashion. They've never been a follower, people actually be following them and the trends they create. Personally, one of the things that frustrates me about Aries is that they have TERRIBLE time management! They take forever to get ready, to leave the house, to get up and do anything. They're slower than molasses. literally. When dating an Aries, they can be a little suspicious about minor things and will blow your phone up when they don't get an answer or feel like they're being ignored. They love hella hard and it could take them a while to truly walk away from 'love' and a relationship. They make awesome partners when they are treated right and they are freaky as hell in bed.

Now these Leos... These Leos are something else! I love that they are so driven, they love money, love working and have a whole new meaning of grinding. They don't give up easily and are consistent. They're naturally popular and know a lot of people,( that doesn't mean that they are friends with all of them! there's a difference) I think some perceive them as stuck up but in reality, they're nice people. They can hold a great conversation and can talk all day long. Some of them have that 'it's my way or the highway' attitude and it's really annoying, others have that 'if you don't got money, then stay from around me' attitude and let me be clear! there's nothing wrong with that, being surrounded by people who are on the same movement as you. And when it comes to fashion, they never leave the house looking a hot mess, they go everywhere looking good and smelling good. They are not shy people, they are very confident and bold. Leo's mark their territory in a relationship, they will not let you forget who their partner is and they literally need attention from their partner like 24/7. Leos are strong individuals, they often go through a lot but they handle their business without complaining most of the time. They are creative individuals and can be very stubborn! They can see through your bullshit and when they are mad don't tell them to calm down! that only adds fuel to the fire. They have a sharp tongue and also can stay mad for long periods of time. They can be very generous to the people they love and have great stamina in bed.

Switching Gears a little bit here to talk about family. I just have a question though... Why do family members think that it's okay to do you wrong and then not apologize for it? They just expect you to move on from the situation without them apologizing because you're their family and that's just supposed to right their wrong! This really pisses me off because it's like you did me wrong, had no intentions to apologize, and still expect me to fuck with you? you think shit sweet after that? you wondering why I don't wanna be around you, and see me acting differently it's because I don't want anything to do with you or the bullshit you be on. The crazy part about it all is that family members be the ones who fuck you over the most! all that one big happy family shit is dead and don't exist today. I remember when all the family could gather at grandmas house for the holidays, for somebody birthday or even just because and we would have a good time, take pictures, and enjoy each others company, but it seems like today family choose who they wanna be around, your family's favorite members have moved states,or are dead and we only gather for celebrations of a new life or death. And most the time we only get together with certain groups of our family because somebody can't get along with somebody else and it never works, there's always a fight or something petty said. And even crazier part is, nobody wants to mend the brokenness, everybody would just rather stay split up because it's easier for them. But in reality, it's not though, having to plan an event or something around that is annoying because you have to choose the right day, time and invite the right people just to make it work and sometimes you have to not tell them you had the event or just plan another one for them. It's mind-boggling to me that family would rather go through all of that than to sit down and deal with the situation like the adults we are, everybody's grown now and y'all surely have seemed to forget that because they're acting like kids most the time doing that petty and childish shit. Like grow the fuck up, if you have a problem then address that shit, why you beating around the bush and avoiding the person or situation and creating all this extra commotion for nothing because at the end of the day we're still family whether you wanna realize it or not and when they die you're gonna be the main one hooping and hollering at the funeral like they was your favorite and you're definitely going to regret not apologizing and making things right, that shit will eat you alive.

- Side Note; Why does it seem like the ones who starts the most shit, say the rudest things and have the nastiest attitude be the saved ones, the bitter ones (of course) or, the miserable ones who put themselves into that position they complain about or don't want to accept. Like the saved ones be painting a pretty picture in church but in real life they can be monster! They talk to God everyday, they read His word, do their devotions and know that God sees the way they treat people, sees the way you act, the way you negatively form your mouth to say rude things, and comment with a slick mouth every time but, still expect God to overlook it, pour out many blessings to you because they're saved.... That's not how it works! And for the bitter and miserable ones.. they love to drag you down in their mess, and really be pissing you off and make you wanna stoop down to their low ass level just to get a reaction from you because they crave that attention, that negativity, that drama, that gossip, that TEA. Misery LOVES company, they love to go on and on about how their life is but ain't making any changes. Love to gossip about this and that, and put so much negativity into the air that they themselves are the reason why their life is like that. All that negativity and karma coming back full circle so fast they don't even see it coming. They think all that talking is gonna get them a promotion but really it's just creating more problems for themselves that could honestly be totally avoidable but, they don't understand that. In the end, their actions do have consequences, and will have to lay in the bed they made for themselves.

Lastly, this the last thing I'm gonna say before moving on. For me personally, family or not it ALWAYS boils down to the principle of things like you chose to do that and act like this towards me and not apologize to me for doing me wrong! And not understand why I'm so upset over what was to you something small. It never just that one thing that pisses me off, it's a whole bunch of shit that you was doing wrong to me, the way you were treating me, talking to me, and everything about that moment on top of everything else that pissed me off. I'm not exactly verbal on all of those things because to me, I shouldn't have to, you should already see what you're doing is wrong and how you're treating me is wrong like how do you not understand that. And still expect me to fuck with you because you my family? fuck outta here with that! I'm not allowing you or nobody for that matter to treat me any ol kind of way.

**** this tweet explains exactly how I felt. (s/o to her for keeping it real)

For a long time, I dealt with the guilt of not speaking up about being mistreated by family and letting that shit eat at me, It got so far as to it messing with my mental health. It became a huge problem for me in all aspects of my life, my safe environment was toxic for me. I am a person who literally needs peace of mind. I tried to hide how I felt and just ignore it. I would go through moments of spazzing out randomly over small things, literally being on the edge of tears daily, not even wanting to be in the same room or house with them. It hurt my heart to see my own family treat me this way. The ones who are supposed to be on my side, the ones who are supposed to be with me not against me, I felt lonely because nobody understood and it just ate me up inside. This was something I've never been through before and I almost let it tear me down completely. I still haven't confessed about how I feel, but I vent to myself through writing, listening to music, going on long drives and praying openly about how I feel. I've healed a little bit from it but, I won't be completely healed until I speak up about how I really feel on the things that went down and honestly, share my side of the story.

Now with staying consistent. It can be easy for some just as it is hard for others. When i refer to staying consistent, I mean with your career and being socially consistent about it. Now, those super social people with thousands and millions of followers have no problem with this because they're already consistent with posting which is why they get so much attention. They give them something they wanna see and keep the ball rolling with being active. They don't struggle with this because, they're already posting all the time, and posting anything related to their career isn't a problem for them. they have that royalty of posting whenever or having a great system to their postings. This motivates them to go harder with their business or career because the people are asking for products, want to support your career and business and are often being shared or reposted which gains more exposure! This is a reason to remain consistent because they see a lot of growth all the time and they want more, more exposure, more interactions, more support, to just gain more overall.

Some people have boiled it down to staying consistent may be a problem for you because you may be doing something that you really don't want to or don't like doing and when you do find something that you truly do enjoy and are in love with you have no problem with staying consistent in your career and being socially consistent on social media because, it's something you love, you can never get enough of it, you always want more. But, to the ones who have a problem either way? meaning that they actually love what they do but just have a problem with staying consistent with your postings on social media and in your career you're not alone! because there are so many people that feel the same way you do and if I'm honest that person is me. I sometimes struggle with remaining consistent with posting about my career and businesses and honestly just in general. sometimes it's not that easy for me, I overthink about it until I just end up not posting it. It's not that I don't love what I do, it's more of a thing of insecurities mixed with being shy and not really knowing how to post about it. Because honestly, throwing a post up on Instagram one time isn't going to cut it, I have to remind myself that people do forget and I don't want people to forget about what I'm posting about so I have to keep posting about it but not spamming. It's a trick to it if you ask me.

But also be aware that there are other factors that come into play that may be a trigger point for others. It's not always as simple as you're not consistent because you don't like it. There could be other things that get in the way of you being consistent that are unavoidable. Sometimes it takes an extra push, some extra motivation that always doesn't come from yourself. You have to remind yourself that are all that in a bag of chips and your business is bomb, you will excel in your career, you will gain more exposure if you remain consistent. I see you working but you need to go harder. I love writing, blogging, creating content and all the other things I'm mixed into but, sometimes I need to remind myself that I do need to be consistent. I question myself like how do expect to gain exposure and experience growth if I'm not being consistent with my work. With uploading writing pieces and new blog posts to my websites, if I'm not marketing it consistently and correctly? I most of the times already have it finished and written, it's just the simple act of marketing it, posting it and being social about it. I know what to do but procrastination does get the best of me, I'm not even gonna lie. This also plays a big role for me too, I make excuses for myself every time and sometimes go through moments of overthinking everything and disappearing from my work and my social posting and in the end, it always hurts me instead of helping me. I made a promise to myself that I will remain consistent and I will be testing myself on that really soon.

For some people transitioning into their career has been easy for them and has been just up, up up and hella growth. For others it has been a bumpy road, facing ups and downs, questioning themselves and really wondering if this is for them. The transition from being a worker to a boss is a mentality, it's not just a title and trust there are pros and cons to both but honestly, if you want to be a boss then you have to sacrifice. a lot. and it's not all easy, it's just about what you're really willing to do to become a business owner or being fully into your career. If you're not willing to crack down and get to work, creating your own lane for yourself being fully into your career, and setting your business apart from others than is this life really for you? Yea you want full Independence, but can you do research on what it really takes to get your business up and running? get the necessary paperwork done? make sales and market your items correctly to gain the right customers and crowd for your business? Are you willing to trade six to eight hours of sleep every night for an all-nighter because you have things to be done and you want them done right? or have a deadline to reach and need things all the way done. Are you willing to practice and perfect your craft so your notes will be flawless and your performance will be to one they never forget? Are you willing to be bold and confident in yourself, your talents and your business to create new opportunities for yourself? All of those things are important, I mean other factors come into play as well but you get the point!

Fully transitioning into your career or into entrepreneurship can be either easy and delightful or a frustrating and really long ride and I have full faith that it's dependent on your support system. Who do you have on your team? who's supporting and motivating you? Is your environment a toxic one or one that's open to helping you and wants to see you grow and achieve your goals. Because there's a clear difference and it really can affect you in more ways than you might realize. Then again, on the other hand, it's all about what you're willing to sacrifice because, if you realllllllllly fucking want it, then you'll get it you won't give a fuck about who's talking you down or who's not really in belief of what you can do. I also believe there are different levels of hustle and grind.

There's the od hungry ones, who again will do any fucking thing to get what they want and nobody or nothing can stop them, it's just go when they figure out what they want and figure out how to get it, they figure out a system that works for them and it's get to the paper, reach these goals and nothing else. They seem to block out anything else that's not important or relevant to what their doing. The Mid-level ones who do what it takes but limit themselves because they can get lazy or too comfortable in there dreams, they don't do too much but it's just enough of them to get the job done and still have faith that what is watered will grow. They have to ability to work hella hard but don't use this tool often because they also get side tracked or distracted very easily. They know what they want but can sometimes over think it, are too hard on themselves or haven't found a system that works for them.The ones who are comfortable who just do one thing and stops early for that day or takes breaks because they believe they are one step closer to their goals or achieving the exposure they believe they need. They don't take advice from others because they believe what they are doing works perfectly fine and won't admit to needing a little guidance with some things business or career wise. They are hella comfortable where they are and don't seek too much change because they want both lives (working 9-5 and claiming to want a business or career) and are more comfortable and dependent of their job. They tell their co-workers they are going to quit but never do because again they are comfortable. and lastly, The talkers, they talk about what they want and tell everybody to excite them but never actually do anything until it's way too late for them and rush to get everything done. The only pro in this is that they work tirelessly to assure they get it done even tho it's last minute. They try to impress people with their words but actually have no actions behind it. They're normally quick talkers and will change the subject when asked for proof of what they just said relating to their career or goals.

Also, when transitioning into the life you want for yourself, please take the time to consider who you're around, everybody is not in the same mindset as you or has the intentions to support you and motivate you. There's people out here who want to see you fall and laugh at you while your down, talk about you and treat you wrong all because you want better for yourself. If they aren't people who are supportive of you and what you're trying to do then you don't need them, they will only drag you down and make the process longer for you because they still wanna do the same things they been doing for life and you want change. For some it don't click like that and you're not entitled to explain your reasoning on why you want better, why you don't want to be around them same ol types of people. If they don't wanna support you then it's fuck them. There's so many people in this world who could be a better friend for you and to you and be a better support system to you. History doesn't determine anything. Some people aren't meant to be in your life forever and it's sickening to drag your ain't shit friend into your new life just because of how long y'all known each other. If they aren't meant to be in your life anymore I truly believe that something will happen to reveal that. That toxic friend who's always gossiping or puts you a position to take you out of your character, the one who always likes to start shit, yea they gotta go! And that stands for family as well. Sometimes all people know is the 9-5 life and that's okay but, that's not you, that's not what you want and you shouldn't take them forcing that kind of lifestyle onto you.

I highly advise that before you take this leap of faith to start your business or really start your career that you do five things.

1. you better think wisely about your group of friends, and family surrounding you. distance yourself from them if they aren't good for you and this new lifestyle. you don't need that kind of negativity in your life.

2. Save your money. You may be eager to start but you definitely need money to fund this so, don't quiet all fast in a hurry and be scrambling trying to find the money to cover certain costs. It will only elongate the process.

3. please do your research and take advantage of the free tools you have that's right in front of you. Create a plan for your business, have structure behind it. create goals.

4. while you are still working at your job, do some of the things that are small like creating a logo, searching for vendors, choosing a website platform for your store or business.

5. If you are unsure of where to find some of those free tools for your business or don't know where to start. I highly suggest you pick up your copy of my eBook " 20 free tools to help grow your business" I wrote this book for beginner business owners, to - be business owners, and businesses that are already up and running but are looking to expand. There's also some advice gems at the bottom on some things that I am learning that could help you as well. (the link will be here as well as at the bottom of this post) https://hazellyakelly5.wixsite.com/hazellyakelly/product-page/20-tools-to-grow-your-business-brand

Also be on the look out for my YouTube video this week explaining how to use some of these free tools and the pros and cones of them.

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