Growing Pains Pt 1 -Blog post 3

Today's topic is on Growing pains. These are the steps between elevation, before leveling up. The most important time in your life! Any person in their early twenties will tell you that we are that weird in between stage where you feel like it's too late but it's not too late and your tryna get your shit together, stack your bread, and just tryna damn make it. Something like, tryna excel in your career, remember to drink enough water, keeping your social life poppin, exercise, study and be on top of your school work, be happy, eat good and stay sane. It's pretty overrated, at this point, we can't wait to be rich, travel as much as we want to and, have our big houses with our families.

Today i'm going to be talking about, Patience, Keeping up with the Joneses and the friends you keep.

The first thing i'ma talk about is patience. Being patient with yourself and your situation is hard and really annoying but, it's something we have to do because trying to rush through everything in life will end up taking more time than you originally planned to. This right here is something that is hard for some of us, well, most of us because we know what we want and we want it now, we don't want to wait on it because we think that we're ready for it now, when in reality we really aren't. We have no patience because we expect that we can skip the struggle and land on our feet, but the reality is going through those struggles help mold us, and prepare us for the better, it helps us to know what we really want or what we're really going to do, or the correct steps to take to achieve our goals. This is the time for growth! So be patient with yourself, it takes time to adapt to change, but it will happen if you let it. While everyone responds differently to being patient with this time in your life, this can make or break you. Meaning that, some people complain about it, some people stay in it, with no progress and some people take it as an experience. It's all up to you to change it and, to start taking matters into your own hands, Everyday is a new day! and it's a fresh start, make your days worth it, make them count. If you know what you want, take this time in your life, to make your first step towards it. Let your struggles become the struggles of your past and not the p resent. Small steps are better than none at all. So, before you know it you could be in your happy place. This position you are in is not forever and you will rise up out of it, but you have to take the first step towards wanting more for yourself, and I promise that you will not look back. Keeping up with the Joneses. For those of you that don't know what that phrase means or those who don't really understand it. Keeping up with the Joneses means that a person always wants to own the same things and do the same things as the next person because you are worried about not being as important as they are. SO, for example, Adam buys a new iPhone, and takes bomb pictures on there. He posts them on social media and you see them ,you wanna be like Adam with the new iPhone, so, you buy that new iPhone too, except the difference is, Adam bought his with cash, and you are on a lease plan with Sprint trying to make monthly payments that are too high for you. You was so worried about Adam and his new iPhone that you didn't even care that you have gotten one for free next month, and now your breaking the bank just so that you can be cool. The point that i'm making here is, don't be like that person who's trying to keep up with everyone else so they can be socially important. That shit ain't even worth it. Your flow is not the same as the next persons and it never will be. Keeping up with the Joneses is like trying to catch every single challenge that comes across Instagram, or trying to go to every single football game with your favorite team. Baby girl, Baby boy, let it goooo *in my B Simone voice* This will never be beneficial to you, and it's always a bad choice for you and here's why. It's very simple, Don't buy things you can't afford with the money you don't have just to impress the people you don't even like. I just be me, I don't even attempt to be like everybody else because it's a waste of time honestly and it's pretty stupid to me, like why would you wanna be like someone else when you can be you unapologetically!! Nobody can be you like you can. PERIOD. Measuring your satisfaction with what you have and what you've achieved vs. someone else's achievements and things that they have you'll never be happy because you'll always feel like you haven't done enough or like you need more of something and that's never okay, you wanting to do more for yourself or achieve more things should ALWAYS be based on yourself and wanting to rise to higher level for yourself not for someone else. Trying to mirror and mimic others will never last long and one day your gonna look in the mirror not even be able to recognize yourself and who you

really are, so before it's too late get off of social media for a while, stop looking out the window at your neighbor, stop texting or calling this person for an update on what this person is doing and go back to doing the things that you love and take interest in, because honestly, tryna keep up with other people is super dead. Be the best version of you and the next thing you know people gone try to be like you. There's always someone out there with more of something and who says any of it matters, as long as your happy with yourself then who the fuck cares about anything else!!

The friends you keep. I'ma keep this one real short and sweet for y'all because this should be self explanatory. The friends you keep are a representation of you, things you like to do, the things your willing to put up with , they simply describe you as a person and has a influence on the choices you make. SO, if your friends are chickens, then your going to cluck like a chicken. If the friends you keep like to drink or smoke, then guess what, you gone be drinking or smoking too, sometimes both. Yes, there are other types of friends too, so, if you have entrepreneur friends, then you gone become a entrepreneur too. If you have friends that are wise, you will be wise too. ( that's literally in the bible. it's Proverbs 13:20 if you think i'm lying) The friends you keep is on you, so, if you want to change and be A boss, you can't keep hanging around your chicken friends. PERIOD. BIG DOT. I'm only gone say this once, KEEP YOUR CIRCLE SMALL. You cannot have 15 best friends, without having, drama, fakeness, somebody is stealing, lying, hating, doing something other than being your 'friend'. Why go through all that when you can have 3 solid ones next to you, whom support each other, motivate each other, love each other, are honest with each other no matter what, raw with each other and help out when needed. Be honest with yourself, would you rather keep fake friends, friends that aren't good for you, friends that talk shit about you behind your back and smile in your face or would you rather be on your own for a while, while focusing on yourself and achieving your goals. Don't comprise your happiness and your future to be "goals" with your fake ass friends, it's never worth it, always choose yourself first.

Thank you for Reading this week's blog post on Growing Pains this is PART 1, PART 2 will be posted next week. Comment below your thoughts on this topic and don't forget to share to all your 'friends' because sharing is caring!

I love y'all

-Hazzie bby